Answer: Disagreements between people can often be negotiated, but conflicts must be won or lost. When deciding whether or not to enter into conflict, ask yourself “If I do this, how will I feel about it six months from now?” Be principled about choosing your conflicts. Do not choose conflict as a remedy for retaliation or antagonism. Although that may feel good in the short term, it may take you off the high road and lead you down the low road of bitterness and regret.
Point: Conflicts can’t always be won, so pick the ones that you can win.